You’ve considered divorce because, at this point, it feels like the only path to happiness. The pain and disappointment from unmet needs and the nonstop fighting have built walls around your heart. You've spoken to lawyers, weighed the financial and emotional toll, and yet, something holds you back. Deep down, you wonder, “Is divorce really what I want, or is there another way?”
Maybe you’ve tried marriage counseling, hoping it would make a difference. But soon enough, both of you slipped back into the old patterns—criticism, power struggles, distance. You both know this isn’t the marriage you dreamed of, and even the kids have started noticing. You’re staying together “for their sake,” but every night, the reality sinks in as you retreat to separate spaces, coping with your loneliness the best way you can, or simply escaping through distractions that numb the pain.
Friends have suggested talking to a lawyer. But the prospect feels cold, confrontational, and impossibly expensive. After navigating thousands of families through the divorce system, it is my professional caveat in most situations that lawyers are the very last people who should get involved. You have heard horror stories of what divorce does to kids, and you feel like your situation is simply impossible without appearing totally selfish. Part of you wonders if maybe you should just wait until the kids leave home. You hold off on personal happiness, crafting a life your spouse isn’t part of, searching for meaning elsewhere.
What if, instead, you could find happiness together? If only you could break through the barriers, be truly heard, and understand each other without triggering painful memories. You want to feel valued, respected, and deeply connected—to be partners again, rather than opponents.
Marriage Mediation offers a compassionate, effective way to reconnect with your spouse and create a future rooted in mutual understanding. Unlike traditional couples therapy, mediation respects and addresses each person’s unique needs, focusing on meaningful dialogue, clear communication, and designing mutually beneficial agreements.
Attorney Char Selassie is a skilled mediator who bridges the gap between legal insight and emotional intelligence, helping you and your spouse understand your relationship contract to work through the facts and emotions that often drive conflict. Through Marriage Mediation, Char creates a respectful and safe space to explore your relationship with honesty and empathy, without the confrontational dynamics of a courtroom.
If you want a path to healing that allows you to both move forward—stronger, more united, and with a renewed sense of purpose—Marriage Mediation may be the solution you've been waiting for.
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