Justice for Broken Relationships

Are you struggling in your marriage, trapped in an experience that feels like narcissistic abuse? Would your partner describe you as narcissistic, and even accuse you of being the abuser who is constantly gaslighting them? If you and your partner take turns being the victim of abuse and dishing out your respective share of defensiveness, stone-walling, and accusation, then you may be a party to a victim-villain agreement.

 

A villain-victim contract is the machinery of rhe narcissistic abuse experience. This particular conflict cycle requires a villain and a victim. The challenge is, however, is that most people in this type of relationship perceive themselves as the victim. This reveals the first contractual agreement that forms the “cyclone” of narcissistic abuse.

 

The person who is convinced they are being abused by a narcissist becomes hyper-focused on the behavior of their abuser. This focus often leads the abused to conclude that their partner lacks empathy. Because the abuser lacks empathy, they gaslight the abused, deflecting from being accountable for their own behavior which the abused   person consistently complains about.

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Are you a woman of faith feeling deeply misunderstood by your man? Do you feel trapped in a relationship where you are not free to fully express yourself without fear of being dismissed, minimized, or rejected? Or are you a husband whose wife has accused you of lacking empathy for her experience of you?

 

Many marriages are strained for answers. In the busy frantic time-squeeze of modern society, men and women are being reshaped by the mad rush into the technological age. At the same time, many of our families are pressured to abandon trusted landmarks of the industrial age. The the dawning of the present information and technological age ushered in a new female. She participates in the workplace. She doubles as a soccer mom and charity organizer. She is an entrepreneur, thought leader, and a loyal best friend. She is a breadwinner and a homemaker. She’s all over the place. She is driven to accomplish more and be more, even though she’s already everything the world needs. 

 

She’s exhausted. 

 

Even more, the average male response to her exhaustion is wearisome to her soul. Each time she complains about the pressure of “one more thing” she has to do, her man attempts to simplify the matter, to help her. Too often, men’s responses to female exhaustion leave women feeling worse. And it is not because men don’t care. It’s not because men lack empathy. It’s because men do not understand how to validate women’s natural spiritual and emotional response to our unnatural environment powered by the endless pressure that triggers us into survival mode and self-preservation. 

 

Delve into the final chapter of a gripping real-life drama that raises provocative questions about justice in the aftermath of divorce and custody battles. Entrenched in a narrative of blame, Corrine finds herself grappling with an undeniable truth after her ex-husband's final dramatic act, leading her to confront her own perpetual cycle of victimhood. Beyond the courtroom, this story unveils a sobering critique of a system that often perpetuates narratives of narcissistic abuse, failing to truly serve families it aims to protect. Discover the profound lessons from a family's generational saga that compel us to rethink how we handle narratives of conflict, victimhood, and personal responsibility. This post offers a compelling insight into how the roles we play in others' stories impact generational outcomes and challenges us to envision a system that prioritizes recovery over retribution. Where does true justice lie for those who remain haunted by unresolved narratives?

In a gripping continuation of the Victim-Villain Deception Series, delve into the tumultuous world of Corrine and Gregory, a once picture-perfect couple whose lives unravel after betrayal. Follow the intense legal battle that ensues, marked by years of litigation and emotional turmoil, as Corrine seeks to protect her children and exact justice. Discover the profound impact of narcissism on family dynamics and the haunting consequences that persist long after the divorce, leaving readers eagerly anticipating the next installment of this compelling narrative.

Do you feel trapped in a toxic relationship? Do you self-identify as an empath or highly-sensitive person? Have you reached the painful conclusion that the only way to end your suffering is to totally abandon this relationship because there is no hope your abuser will ever change?

 

If this is you, then read closely. There is a social phenomenon that has been creeping into the homes of broken-hearted people throughout the nation. Sadly, the comfort and emotional validation offered by this ideology is ripping more and more families apart, simply because of its undeniable logic. This phenomenon is the new “N-word.” It is the partner-led diagnosis of parents, lovers and friends. And if you have reached the conclusion your suffering is being driven by a narcissist, then the arguments I am asserting in this series of writings may offend you and challenge your beliefs, feelings, and logical reasoning. 

 

“There really are that many narcissists,” said Dr. Joyce, a licensed Atlanta clinician. 

 

I remained puzzled, “Come on, now,” I prodded. “How did all of these narcissists suddenly come out of nowhere?” I challenged her, respectfully unconvinced. 

 

Her response fell flat. All she knew was that she saw a growing number of these personality traits appearing in her practice. She comforted her patients with the conclusion based on the DSM description of narcissism. She could not deny what she was hearing from her own patients—and their abusers. 

 

Dr. Joyce and I are friendly and mature enough to “agree to disagree.” But it bothered me that someone who shared so many commonalities with my own worldview would be so willing to slap the N-word on so many people in struggling marriages. Even worse, she had accepted the premise that some people cannot be healed or restored from their psychological and spiritual brokenness. For me, there were too many unanswered questions.