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Judge Char shares principles of life, love & relationships

 
Helpless in disguise: Children’s advocacy for wounded adults


What is a bully made of? Did the childhood bullies suddenly grow up when they reached adulthood? Or are they newly manifested as aggressive attorneys, demeaning supervisors, or even as cold and disengaged physicians?
 
I randomly mentioned being beaten with an extension cord when I was thirteen years old. My husband interjected, “You were hit with an extension cord?”
 
“Yes,” I replied, “That would leave bruising for a few days.”
 
“That was child abuse,” he remarked.
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How to count the cost of war before pressing the red button


Does it feel like remaining married is like a prison sentence? But the only reason you stay is because you fear spending 6-figures or more to legally exit? Or are you so emotionally spent from being unhappy, you fantasize daily about your prison break, even if it costs your kids’ inheritance?
 
The reality is that it is easier for lawyers to file lawsuits and charge you for the fallout. The reason why I changed my practice model, however, is because my heart broke for the future expense borne by the children.
 
And it doesn’t make a difference if you wait until they graduate high school.
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what Happened to Her Sex Drive?


Are you a busy working mom who feels like you are sacrificing yourself for your children, job and marriage? Do you find yourself entering sleep from a place of being spent—totally exhausted with nothing left to offer anyone? Are you infuriated when your husband approaches you for sex, oblivious that your only desire is for rest?
 
I have met many women in this season of life. And do you know what I discovered they had in common 9 out of 10 times? 
 
The did not have LIFE community
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