Do you feel trapped in a toxic relationship? Do you self-identify as an empath or highly-sensitive person? Have you reached the painful conclusion that the only way to end your suffering is to totally abandon this relationship because there is no hope your abuser will ever change?
If this is you, then read closely. There is a social phenomenon that has been creeping into the homes of broken-hearted people throughout the nation. Sadly, the comfort and emotional validation offered by this ideology is ripping more and more families apart, simply because of its undeniable logic. This phenomenon is the new “N-word.” It is the partner-led diagnosis of parents, lovers and friends. And if you have reached the conclusion your suffering is being driven by a narcissist, then the arguments I am asserting in this series of writings may offend you and challenge your beliefs, feelings, and logical reasoning.
Confronting Family Conflict Professionals
“There really are that many narcissists,” said Dr. Joyce, a licensed Atlanta clinician.
I remained puzzled, “Come on, now,” I prodded. “How did all of these narcissists suddenly come out of nowhere?” I challenged her, respectfully unconvinced.
Her response fell flat. All she knew was that she saw a growing number of these personality traits appearing in her practice. She comforted her patients with the conclusion based on the DSM description of narcissism. She could not deny what she was hearing from her own patients—and their abusers.
Dr. Joyce and I are friendly and mature enough to “agree to disagree.” But it bothered me that someone who shared so many commonalities with my own worldview would be so willing to slap the N-word on so many people in struggling marriages. Even worse, she had accepted the premise that some people cannot be healed or restored from their psychological and spiritual brokenness. For me, there were too many unanswered questions.
Was this a phenomenon of social media?
Was it the full manifestation and exposure of generations of child abuse?
Was it a revealing of the underbelly of the American Dream?
Where do all of these narcissists come from?
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