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The end of the fight (cont’d): A reality check for victim-driven litigation


Delve into the final chapter of a gripping real-life drama that raises provocative questions about justice in the aftermath of divorce and custody battles. Entrenched in a narrative of blame, Corrine finds herself grappling with an undeniable truth after her ex-husband's final dramatic act, leading her to confront her own perpetual cycle of victimhood. Beyond the courtroom, this story unveils a sobering critique of a system that often perpetuates narratives of narcissistic abuse, failing to truly serve families it aims to protect. Discover the profound lessons from a family's generational saga that compel us to rethink how we handle narratives of conflict, victimhood, and personal responsibility. This post offers a compelling insight into how the roles we play in others' stories impact generational outcomes and challenges us to envision a system that prioritizes recovery over retribution. Where does true justice lie for those who remain haunted by unresolved narratives?
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The end of the fight: A reality check for victim-driven litigation


In a gripping continuation of the Victim-Villain Deception Series, delve into the tumultuous world of Corrine and Gregory, a once picture-perfect couple whose lives unravel after betrayal. Follow the intense legal battle that ensues, marked by years of litigation and emotional turmoil, as Corrine seeks to protect her children and exact justice. Discover the profound impact of narcissism on family dynamics and the haunting consequences that persist long after the divorce, leaving readers eagerly anticipating the next installment of this compelling narrative.
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How the “N” Word is  Trending Destruction of Modern Families (The Villain-Victim Deception Pt. 1


Do you feel trapped in a toxic relationship? Do you self-identify as an empath or highly-sensitive person? Have you reached the painful conclusion that the only way to end your suffering is to totally abandon this relationship because there is no hope your abuser will ever change?
 
If this is you, then read closely. There is a social phenomenon that has been creeping into the homes of broken-hearted people throughout the nation. Sadly, the comfort and emotional validation offered by this ideology is ripping more and more families apart, simply because of its undeniable logic. This phenomenon is the new “N-word.” It is the partner-led diagnosis of parents, lovers and friends. And if you have reached the conclusion your suffering is being driven by a narcissist, then the arguments I am asserting in this series of writings may offend you and challenge your beliefs, feelings, and logical reasoning. 
 
Confronting Family Conflict Professionals
“There really are that many narcissists,” said Dr. Joyce, a licensed Atlanta clinician. 
 
I remained puzzled, “Come on, now,” I prodded. “How did all of these narcissists suddenly come out of nowhere?” I challenged her, respectfully unconvinced. 
 
Her response fell flat. All she knew was that she saw a growing number of these personality traits appearing in her practice. She comforted her patients with the conclusion based on the DSM description of narcissism. She could not deny what she was hearing from her own patients—and their abusers. 
 
Dr. Joyce and I are friendly and mature enough to “agree to disagree.” But it bothered me that someone who shared so many commonalities with my own worldview would be so willing to slap the N-word on so many people in struggling marriages. Even worse, she had accepted the premise that some people cannot be healed or restored from their psychological and spiritual brokenness. For me, there were too many unanswered questions.
 
Was this a phenomenon of social media?
 
Was it the full manifestation and exposure of generations of child abuse?
 
Was it a revealing of the underbelly of the American Dream?
 
Where do all of these narcissists come from?
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