The New Book by Sherlyn "Char" Selassie, Esq.

Consent Order

(The Possibility Contract)

How to Build Your Case at Home and End the War in Family Court

Your child doesn't need a winner. Your child needs peace. Learn to design the agreement that protects them, without needing a law degree.

Get Your Copy Today

Physical book $47 • Digital class download $27

Consent Order

(The Possibility Contract)

How to Build Your Case at Home and End the War in Family Court

Your child doesn't need a winner. Your child needs peace. Learn to design the agreement that protects them, without needing a law degree.

Get Your Copy Today

Physical book $47 • Digital class download $27

What Is a Consent Order?

A consent order begins as an agreement between both parties in a lawsuit. Once a judge signs it, their agreement becomes an order of the court.

The parties are the architects of that agreement. They know the details of their case and have the greatest investment in its outcome. This three-way process—between the parties and the court—shows them the power and authority they have to resolve their differences.

What Is a Consent Order?

A consent order begins as an agreement between both parties in a lawsuit. Once a judge signs it, their agreement becomes an order of the court.

The Law of Agreement is the Judge in Your Relationship Before and After Court.

And you don't have to make them change to terminate the toxic terms and conditions that have been causing your conflict.

The Law of Agreement is the Judge in Your Relationship Before and After Court.

And you don't have to make them change to terminate the toxic terms and conditions that have been causing your conflict.

“But I’ve Already Tried to Work Things Out...”

You may want to reach an agreement with the other parent, but feel like you’ve tried everything already. I understand. My question is: how much have you explored your own internal conflict, the way you show up in the relationship, and your negotiation style?

In Consent Order, I share the skills I learned as a family lawyer and a step-by-step process for accessing the Law of Agreement. You’ll learn how to address the conflict at home and begin building a more peaceful future for your child.

“But I’ve Already Tried to Work Things Out...”

A Different Way to Build Your Case

Consent Order: How to Build Your Case at Home and End the War in Family Court by Sherlyn “Char” Selassie, Esq. brings legal principles and contract frameworks into personal relationships and family conflict resolution.

Blending legal analysis, personal memoir, and psychological insight, the book introduces “relationship law” and the Law of Connection.

O + Y = C

Offer + Yes = Connection

Put the FIRAC Framework to Work

Explore the facts, issue, rule, analysis, and conclusion behind the agreements shaping your life.

Audit Your Agreements

Examine personal and interpersonal agreements to identify toxic terms, neglect, and abuse.

Reclaim Your Jurisdiction

Exercise personal jurisdiction and free will to challenge disempowering “default judgments.”

Write Possibility Provisions

Replace limiting beliefs with actionable “Possibility Provisions” and structured discovery exercises.

Fight Like a Lover

Move from reactive conflict toward empowered self-advocacy, peace, and healthier, mutually beneficial connections.

You Never Agreed to Live in a War Zone

Yet here you are: court dates, hostile texts, and a child caught in the crossfire. If you feel exhausted and unsure where to turn, you are not alone.

Lost in the Legal System

Motions, hearings, and legal language that feels designed to keep you confused and dependent.

Drained by Your Ex

Every exchange becomes a fight. The toxic cycle repeats no matter what the court order says.

Afraid for Your Child

You see the stress on their face and wonder how to shield them from a conflict they never chose.

Court orders regulate behavior. Agreements change families.

You Never Agreed to Live in a War Zone

Yet here you are: court dates, hostile texts, and a child caught in the crossfire. If you feel exhausted and unsure where to turn, you are not alone.

Lost in the Legal System

Motions, hearings, and legal language that feels designed to keep you confused and dependent.

Drained by Your Ex

Every exchange becomes a fight. The toxic cycle repeats no matter what the court order says.

Afraid for Your Child

You see the stress on their face and wonder how to shield them from a conflict they never chose.

Court orders regulate behavior. Agreements change families.

Think Like a Lawyer. Fight Like a Lover®.

Sherlyn "Char" Selassie, Esq. is an attorney, legal strategist, and the creator of "relationship law"—an innovative framework that applies core contract principles and legal analysis to interpersonal dynamics and family conflict resolution. In her groundbreaking book, Consent Order: How to Build Your Case at Home and End the War in Family Court, Char blends rigorous legal expertise, deep psychological insight, and personal memoir to help readers reclaim their personal jurisdiction and cultivate peaceful, mutually beneficial connections.

Utilizing the FIRAC legal framework (Facts, Issue, Rule, Analysis, Conclusion) and foundational concepts like the Law of Connection (

O + Y = C

), Char equips readers with practical tools to audit internal agreements, vacate disempowering default judgments of powerlessness, and rewrite limiting beliefs into actionable "Possibility Provisions." Driven by a passion for empowering self-advocacy and protecting children, her mission is to help individuals transition from a reactive victim mindset to strategic self-sovereignty—teaching them how to "Think Like a Lawyer, Fight Like a Lover®" to restore harmony at home and shield children from the harms of contested custody litigation.

Char is the founder of Community Justice Institute, Inc., a nonprofit dedicated to protecting children’s human right to identity through safe and loving bonds with parents who have been alienated from them by abuse of the legal system.

Understand Consent Orders

Learn what a consent order is and how to design the best agreement for your child.

Master Relationship Law

Use contract principles to spot hidden terms driving every family fight.

Practice Real Legal Skills

Skills practice that builds legal literacy and the confidence to stand before a judge.

Terminate Toxic Terms

Experience immediate relief as you cancel the toxic conditions keeping you at war.

Think Like a Lawyer. Fight Like a Lover®.

Utilizing the FIRAC legal framework (Facts, Issue, Rule, Analysis, Conclusion) and foundational concepts like the Law of Connection (

O + Y = C

Understand Consent Orders

Learn what a consent order is and how to design the best agreement for your child.

Master Relationship Law

Use contract principles to spot hidden terms driving every family fight.

Practice Real Legal Skills

Skills practice that builds legal literacy and the confidence to stand before a judge.

Terminate Toxic Terms

Experience immediate relief as you cancel the toxic conditions keeping you at war.

Take a Look Inside Consent Order

Consent Order: How to Build Your Case at Home and End the War in Family Court by Sherlyn “Char” Selassie, Esq. applies legal principles and contract frameworks to relationships and family conflict. Blending legal analysis, personal memoir, and psychological principles, it introduces relationship law and the Law of Connection: O + Y = C (Offer + Yes = Connection).

Through the FIRAC framework—Facts, Issue, Rule, Analysis, Conclusion—you’ll learn to audit agreements for toxic terms, neglect, and abuse; exercise personal jurisdiction to challenge disempowering “default judgments”; and turn limiting beliefs into actionable Possibility Provisions.

What’s Inside

From your first relationship agreement to practical tools for navigating family court.

Start Here

Relationship Agreement
Introduction: Looking up from the bottom bunk of life

Part I — Think Like a Lawyer

This thought process will change your entire life so don’t skip it.
These three keys will open any door to possibility in your life.
How to offensively guard your peace and defensively reject limiting contracts that drive conflict
How to identify the right patterns and solve the puzzles that advance your case.
How to spot the “you’re not good enough” offer.
How to spot the “you can’t trust yourself” offer.
Unraveling the elements of a Punishment Contract

Part II — Fight Like a Lover

Lovers don’t blame or shame. We examine contributory factors through Discovery.
How to terminate toxicity and cancel the Cyclone of Crazy.
Love is a fighting style.
Advocate from the Lover’s Stance.
A legal-psychological framework for navigating narcissistic abuse
Proven strategies for disarming high conflict

Part III — Don’t Write a Letter to the Judge

Legal Writing Glossary

Family court drama begins with a complaint (or petition)
Your response to a complaint or petition is always time-sensitive
What should you discover and why
It’s your move, so file a motion (not a dang letter)
How to keep the court informed of your contact information

Exhibits & Bonus Resources

Exhibit A: Fight Like a Lover by learning emotional language that impacts your case
Exhibit B: Fight like a lover by prioritizing connection with yourself
Exhibit C: Possibility Contract Template
Exhibit D: The Best Interest of the Child Factors
Exhibit E: Mayo: A True Story

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Families Feel Seen, Heard & Protected

★★★★★

"I met Mrs. Char in 2020, and I was at possibly one of the lowest points in my life. She immediately addressed my concerns during our consultation and made me feel heard. She made me feel like even though I felt like I was fighting a losing battle, it was a winning one. In a world full of darkness, she helped me see the light.

A five-star rating isn't enough to measure the quality of service, the empathy, and the LOVE that this team has shown my three kids and me over the years. Divorce is hard. Custody battles are even more challenging. But one thing that is not hard is continuing to select Law for Love for all of my family's legal needs."

Tamiya "Miya" Jackson

Mother of three • Google Review

Families Feel Seen, Heard & Protected

★★★★★

Tamiya "Miya" Jackson

Mother of three • Google Review

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Questions Parents Ask

I don't understand the law. Don't I need an attorney?

Consent Order was written for everyday parents. Char is known for making the law relatable and understandable. You'll build legal literacy step by step, and you'll be a stronger, calmer partner to any attorney or mediator you choose to work with.

What does contract law have to do with family court?

Everything. A consent order is an agreement, and every family fight is driven by unspoken terms and conditions. When you understand relationship law, you can identify and terminate the toxic terms and design an agreement that actually holds.

I need evidence skills, not legal theory.

This isn't abstract theory. It includes practical skills practice that helps you think like a lawyer, organize what matters to the court, and present yourself with confidence, while keeping your child's best interest at the center.

What if I need more support after the book?

Law for Love offers private mediation, arbitration, custody coaching, and the complimentary Law for Love Academy community law school. The book is the perfect first step.

Your Child Deserves Peace. So Do You.

Stop reacting to the chaos. Start designing the agreement that protects your family's future.

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