Sherlyn "Char" Selassie
Attorney, Founder
Law for Love
The Most Special Place in the Legal System in Atlanta
Private Marriage Mediation
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Crafting a personalized roadmap, complete with conflict intervention, individual challenges and my one-on-one support at every turn, designed to resolve your differences with dignity, compassion and respect and to rebuild your connection...
every week.
As a seasoned attorney mediator with a track record of helping thousands of families through the legal system, I have dedicated my mediation expertise to help marriages before its too late and people who actually love each other are ending it all with a call to a divorce lawyer.
The barrier to achieving your relationship goals isn't because your love is gone...you just need the right perspective, insights, and expert interpretation we use to support both of you to stop fighting and start loving again.
Unveiling the Unspoken Truths about Marriage
The journey into relationship contract coaching and conflict mediation isn’t paved with the conventional wisdom most marriage therapists use. My unique approach combines compassion and law which deviates from the desperation husbands and wives feel while waiting for their spouse to change before they can feel safe in the marriage again.
Grounded in tangible, marriage building experience, I navigated the tumultuous waters of a divorce practice until I realized that too many of our clients were let down once again when the finality of divorce left them with wounds the legal system can never fix. Mediation for marriage building is a life changing experience for our families as I hope you will experience for yourself.
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End Power Struggles
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Unlock new negotiation skills for a win-win
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Compassionate professional support
What is mediation, and how can it help in preventing divorce?
Mediation is a set of informal meetings we have with each of you about the challenges in your marriage. We discuss the problem, how it is impacting your relationship, and what each of you are willing and able to do to work on the problem.
The beauty of mediation is that it is a communication tool to help each side of a conflict find agreement and move forward together with a plan. The mediation process supports each side in feeling heard, understood, and having a voice in their future. This is extremely powerful for relieving stress that often erupts in marriage when people feel misunderstood.
Mediations absolutely can and DOES prevent divorce. Our mediation environment provides a safe and respectful space for both of you to be honest and open. From there, we support you both in designing your future after we have eliminated the stress caused by the lack of communication.
Is Your Marriage in a Power Struggle Contract?
Relationship contracts are the unspoken agreements we share with others. Unfortunately, in marriage, as conflict arises, we build relationship contracts that contradict our marriage vows. When we do this, we experience more pain than joy in marriage. For too many people, they remain in pain without ever realizing the power of the legal operation they entered into that ultimately leads to totally giving up on marriage.
Learn more about relationship contracts in this powerful legal training and begin changing your marriage for the better...beginning today.
Do we both need to be on the call?
No. Mediation is a voluntary process, so your spouse should never feel forced or threatened. During your 1-on-1 call with me, I will hear what has been going on and discuss your goals for mediation. Together, we will develop the best strategy to invite your spouse into the process.
At the end of your call, you will feel heard, understood, and will have clarity about what has been happening between you. I will give you a game plan you can begin using RIGHT NOW that empowers you to do the next right thing in your relationship and relieve the pain you have been experiencing.
I love everything Char stands for!😍 The way she communicates, as well as her prayers🙏🏽, & guidance has had a wonderful impact on my marriage. I love & appreciate that she is unbiased and fair.💯 I can't see myself going anywhere else for mediation and counseling.💕🤗
-Abigail
What types of issues can be addressed during mediation sessions?
We talk about EVERYTHING you and your spouse need to discuss. There is no issue that is off limits. You are 100% safe to speak your mind without fear of the consequences. Let us help you interpret it back to your spouse in a way they can understand without feeling attacked or threatened.
Absolutely brilliant reliable and trustworthy!!!
How does the mediation process work in rebuilding trust and communication between partners?
Mediation restores safety for those difficult conversations that usually end in a fight between you both. As we continue working together, your mediator helps you to understand aspects of what your spouse is experiencing. Your mediator also gives you meaningful feedback from how your spouse really cares for you. Your mediator is skilled in removing the hard feelings from the conversation so that you can see the facts and action that can be taken together so that you can both hear one another again.
How long does mediation typically take to show results in a relationship?
Our families typically experience results within the first four weeks of mediation. However, three months is the typical timeframe for you both to practice agreement techniques we teach you during the process.
Can mediation help us if we've already decided to separate or file for divorce?
If this is your situation, yes...you can utilize private mediation to navigate you through an uncontested divorce process.
HOWEVER, Law for Love no longer provides divorce services and is focused only on marriage rebuilding.
How does mediation address underlying emotional issues that may be contributing to our marital problems?
Law for Love is not a licensed mental health provider. We do not diagnose nor treat mental illness.
HOWEVER, in our experience, listening and empathy are the two most important deliverables for assisting people in emotional healing. Because our clients feel heard and understood, they no longer show up in their marriage with the same level of frustration. This is only one example of the many ways mediation supports underlying emotional issues that arise in your marriage.
What qualifications should we look for in a mediator who specializes in relationship repair and divorce prevention?
The most important skill that qualifies a mediator is LISTENING. Someone who has demonstrated empathy, compassion, and negotiation skills is qualified to help any relationship that is in conflict.
Law for Love is qualified to mediate relationships in divorce prevention because we have already successfully prevented divorce. We work with people who love each other and are uniquely gifted to interpret that love in the middle of a heated fight. Our clients gain more self awareness, authentic acceptance, and real-talk guidance to help them reach their individual goals. In doing so, each person brings a better version of themselves to the relationship because they are accepting individualized accountability without feeling forced or threatened by their spouse.
Can mediation be effective if one partner is resistant or less committed to the process?
Absolutely. So long as your spouse agrees to start the process and schedule regular check-ins with the mediator, mediation will be effective even if you are more committed to the process than your spouse is.
The reason is that our approach to rebuilding marriage does not depend on your spouse making any significant changes. We provide you with the empathy, compassion, and perspective you need to understand your opportunities to resolve conflict with or without your spouse. It only takes the committed effort of ONE of you to completely transform the atmosphere at home.
Is mediation a confidential process, and how does that impact the outcome?
Yes. Mediation is 100% confidential. This creates safety for both of you to be totally honest so that we can help you identify opportunities for agreement and connection with one another.
I honestly don’t know where to begin. 😊Char and her team are absolutely amazing. I had a really tough, complex case against me and Char without a shadow of a doubt took all of the worries and fears away and reminded me to breathe.. lol.. Her sweet, kind, and gentle voice and nature will definitely make you feel at ease. She had a sweet interior but a tough exterior when its time to get down to business of handling the case. She listened and offered a lot of guidance throughout my case. She called and checked on me and she was concerned about my well being. Most attorneys just want to collect a check and could care less about their client. Char is more than an attorney. She’s definitely like family to me. I appreciate her so much. If you’re looking for an attorney with all integrity, honesty, and dedication.. look no further.. Char is definitely the best!
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What happens if we reach an impasse during mediation?
The only impasse in a marriage rebuilding mediation is that one of you decides to completely give up on the marriage. However, if you are both agreeing to attend mediation, then you are more likely to find connection again. And if you do the work (we hold you accountable for), then the likelihood of impasse is very low.
